Understanding Jennifer

Turning Pain Into purpose

In May of 2018, I discovered a lump in my left breast. It was hard as a rock, I knew what it was. I immediately called my family doctor. I was 49 years old.
After many tests and a biopsy, I was diagnosed with ER/PR positive and HER2 negative stage 2 breast cancer.
In consultation with the surgeon, the decision was made to keep the breast and remove the tumour. Seven days after surgery, I developed a seroma. Then a nasty post op infection abscess with cellulitis which landed me in hospital for three days (fever of 103.8, accelerated heart rate, blue fingernails, swelling and redness in the post op area).
While in hospital, on July 10, I received my second piece of devastating news.
The tumour was actually 8.5 cm and had spread to one lymph node. Even with all the tests, mammograms, ultrasounds, the tumour was hiding. My daughter referred to it as a hide and seek champion! I was now facing stage 3, grade 3 cancer, chemotherapy and radiation.
So why Understanding Jennifer?
Simple. Because my personal battle with cancer ignited a passionate desire to support and uplift others facing similar challenges.
I hope you’ll join me on this transformative journey of healing, hope, and moving forward from cancer.
And yes, I am cancer free!

My Story

In the years since my battle with breast cancer I’ve told my story and shared resources countless times. I’ve spoken about listening to an online cancer symposium and how it had a profound impact on me. Each speaker resonated with me in different ways. Each speaker became a daily source of laughter and tears. Listening to others helped me feel connected. It validated my feelings. The honesty was refreshing.
One day, while reflecting upon this, a seed was planted. I decided it was time to create something that could prove helpful and meaningful for others. I decided I would write my story and post it to Substack. My story is just that. My story. Substack allows me a measure of content protection.
Cancer is a deeply personal journey. Everyone handles it differently. Not everyone has a strong support system. Sometimes this is by design as not everyone chooses to share. For me, maintaining a sense of normalcy was extremely important. I laughed. I cried. I refused to be treated with kid gloves. I refused to let cancer control the narrative.
I hope my words provide an outlet for when others misguidedly shut you down or speak in hushed tones. Or when they mistakenly believe that asking you about cancer will lead you down a road of sadness. Or for when others foist their fears upon you.
I have no idea if my efforts will reach anyone, but if they do, I hope I provide connection with my words. I hope to provide support and uplift others facing similar challenges.

Resources

These resources are offered for informational purposes solely and should not be considered a replacement for medical care. If you have questions regarding your healthcare, talk to your healthcare provider. The presence of a resource does not suggest endorsement by Understanding Jennifer.